Every mom has a moment where she wishes she could go back to a time that didn’t involve crying babies, two hours of sleep a night or having all of her clothes smell like breast milk.
Admitting a twinge of baby resentment may seem wrong, but relax – it happens to everyone.
The baby blues is a biological response to your rapidly changing hormone levels after pregnancy and childbirth. Added to this, you have just experienced one of the most incredibly life-altering transformations known to man (or woman!). Nearly every part of your life has changed. When you are ready to get out of the house, even the simplest trip feels like an ordeal. Nothing from your maternity or pre-baby wardrobe fits. And the dark circles under your eyes from lack of sleep make you look like a ghost.
Symptoms of the classic baby blues include:
The overwhelming responsibilities of a new baby, around the clock feeding, diaper changes, inconsolable crying and too many sleepless nights, simply aggravate this state.
It is only a cause for concern if these feelings last beyond a few weeks. After four weeks, some moms still feel like they cannot do anything right. They are filled with self-doubt and, in spite of being exhausted, they suffer insomnia. Their thoughts darken and they find themselves in a clinically depressed state. These women may be suffering from postnatal depression.
If you start feeling like this, you should talk to a healthcare professional about it. Maybe you need therapy or to get in contact with a support group where you can discuss how you feel with other moms who are having similar experiences. Don’t feel guilty and ignore your emotions. Seek help. Remember, your life has changed dramatically – you just need some time to get used to it.
Whether you are feeling overjoyed or overwhelmed, know that all good moms have bad moments. That’s just being a mom. Take pleasure (and comfort) in the fact that in the end, the good parts of motherhood outweigh the bad – by a long shot!